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Monday, 28 November 2022

50 Ways to Be Romantic on the Cheap


                              Ways to Be Romantic on the Cheap



Often my articles on family are about spending time with your kids, but today we’ll talk about another important aspect of families: couples. If you’ve got a significant other, I highly recommend you keep the spark of your relationship alive and find ways to show you appreciate each other, every week and every day, if possible.


Look for little, inexpensive ways to be romantic, and it will pay off for your relationship in innumerable ways.


Why inexpensive? Well, you could rent a limo and take your love to a snooty French restaurant, or whisk him or her off to a trip to the snow-capped Alps, or rent a stadium and have the Three Tenors sing love songs for you while the New York Philharmonic plays in the background. I don’t know about you, but I can’t afford to do that kind of stuff more than a few times a month. The rest of the time, I have to resort to cheapskate.


Before we get into the list, let’s look at a few notes on how to use the list:


Weekly dates. I recommend you have a date at least once a week with your partner. It doesn’t have to be an expensive one, but at least find some way to spend a couple hours time together. If you’ve got kids, like I do, find a babysitter.

Communicate. Romantic gestures don’t take the place of real communication. Take time to talk about your goals, your dreams, your plans for the future, your current lives, things you’re happy about, things you love about the other person, things you’d like to work on, things you’re grateful for.

Inspiration. This list contains a lot of obvious stuff — you could probably come up with twice as many good ideas yourself. But the list doesn’t aim for originality — it aims to be an inspiration. Pick and choose some good ideas, or use it to spark some of your own. Sometimes we just need a little reminder.

Forget Valentines. Boycott Valentine’s Day, as it makes people think they should be romantic on special occasions. Instead, pick one of these ideas and do it any day of the week — no need for a special occasion.

OK, enough talk. Let’s look at some ways to be romantic without breaking your budget (note to my mom: don’t read this, as there are a couple of sexy-time things later on):

  1. Write a poem.
  2. Cook a romantic dinner.
  3. Give a full-body massage.
  4. Pack a sunset picnic.
  5. Pick wildflowers on the way home.
  6. Burn a CD with love songs.
  7. Give dark chocolates.
  8. Read poetry together.
  9. Prepare strawberries with fondue chocolate.
  10. Snuggle together on a rainy day.
  11. Leave little love notes everywhere.
  12. Send a love email every day.
  13. Take a moonlit walk on the beach.
  14. Snuggle together while watching romantic movies (Casablanca, Audrey Hepburn are my favs).
  15. Get good wine, watch shooting stars.
  16. Take a bath together (use bubbles!).
  17. Bring home good coffee or a decadent sweet.
  18. Take a walk down memory lane — visit some of the special places from your early days of dating.
  19. Make warm chocolate cake for dessert.
  20. Make a scrapbook with photos, mementos, and little notes from you lives together.
  21. Kiss in the rain.
  22. Ride a ferris wheel.
  23. Sneak away from a party and make out.
  24. Bring home great take-out, and light some candles.
  25. Fix something or fix up the house just to make your partner happy.
  26. Slow dance to romantic music.
  27. Take a nap together.
  28. Kiss slowly, touching his or her back and neck and nape — slowly.
  29. Make a list of everything you love about him or her.
  30. Write a love letter.
  31. Clip or email things that make you think of him or her, every day.
  32. Go to a movie, ignore the movie, and make out like teen-agers.
  33. Groom yourself, and try to look good for your partner.
  34. Take some quiet time and talk about your day.
  35. Write little notes, one for each way he or she drives you crazy.
  36. Feed each other grapes.
  37. Recreate your partner’s favorite romantic movie scene.
  38. Pretend you’re going on a first date — show up at the door with flowers, all dressed up, with your car washed and cleaned, looking spiffy. Recreate the first time.
  39. Create a little box with a bunch of your partner’s favorite things inside.
  40. Paint each other with flavored body paint. Be creative!
  41. Try some sexy role-playing. Get dressed up, be daring, have fun.
  42. Give a little token to your partner to wear, and say it’s to remind him or her all day that you love them.
  43. Sing a favorite song to him or her. Only do this if you can sing fairly well.
  44. Have dinner on the roof, with some candles. This doesn’t work if your roof slopes sharply.
  45. Hold hands, and walk somewhere with lots of pretty lights.
  46. Say I love you. In a different way, every day.
  47. Blindfold your partner. Use a feather. Slowly.
  48. Declare your love, very publicly.
  49. Fruit or berries and freshly made whipped cream.
  50. Play Sade. Do what comes naturally. Slowly.

Saturday, 22 June 2019

Hot!!! Hotel Sex Positions That Will Make Your vacations a Memorable One.




There’s a reason why hotel sex is so good–you’re on vacation! You’re moving away from your go-to routine, which, however great, could always use some variety of relocation. And what better way to mix it up than a king-size bed, fresh sheets you don’t have to clean up, and (if you get the post-boning munchies) room service? Whether you do it on the bed, in the luxury shower, or, hell, on a desk chair, here are eight positions to really help you enjoy your stay.



A Room With a View

Use the huge picture window for some pretend exhibition. Wait until night and you’ll be able to see everything and everyone outside, but they can’t see you. Have your partner hop aboard the standard-issue accent chair while you climb on top of them. Remember to turn off ALL the lights in the room and obvs don’t be on the first floor or it gets way too real!











The All-Inclusive

Now’s the time to bring out that one vibe that’s really, really good but a little too loud for home. Try doggy with a reach-around by the giving partner. (If the giver is using a strap-on, a wearable one that vibrates will do a li’l something for them too.) And if it sounds like a chainsaw is going off in your room, well, let your hall mates wonder. It’s not like you’ll ever see them again!





The Four-Poster Fantasy

Stand on the pillows (again–not yours to wash!) and face the wall, grabbing on to a bedpost and propping a foot on the headboard. This works best at a bed-and-breakfast where defiling the dainty space seems extra dirty, but any room with a headboard or bedposts will do. Usually, you should be totally present with your partner, but in this case, feel quite free to press your cheek against the old-timey wallpaper and have a full-on historical romantic fantasy. You can tell them about it as they f*ck you...or not.




The Do Not Disturb


Hotels always have huge mirrors that are perfect for watching yourselves having sex. Find that mirror, drag a chair or that flimsy luggage rack thing over there, and start making out, murmuring something like, “Look how hot we look.” Tell them you want to watch as they slide inside you, and prop your leg up so you can both see how completely sexy you look. There’s a reason people are voyeurs and exhibitionists—do this and you’ll see why.




The Wake-Up Call

Sleep in as long as you like and wake up slowly. Start the day by lying on your stomach, opening your legs a bit, and letting them slide in from behind. After sharing a bed all night, your bodies will be relaxed and ready for each other (especially because of the glory of morning wood), and since you’re facing away from your partner, no worries about the non-glories of morning breath.



For Adults Only

Anyone can turn on the computer and wank to some porn, but there’s something delightfully forbidden and old-school about checking out the “adult channel” that still exists in every hotel. Suggest seeing what’s on (this is even more effective if it’s out of character for you) and position yourselves facing the TV. If you’re feeling it, copy what the actors are doing. Be as loud as you want (because, hotel!). If you receive a noise complaint, count it as a badge of honour.




The Upward Affair


A hotel is ideal for acting out a fantasy role-play. The best part is, you can be absolutely anyone. Seduction of the room service delivery guy/maid? Adulterous lovers secretly meeting for the first time? Put your ass at the edge of the bed, legs over their shoulders, and have them lean down between your legs. Just throw yourselves into it. Role-play is weirdly freeing because it’s not “you,” it’s your character.



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Wednesday, 15 May 2019

Advice for men


7 S**x Mistakes Men Make









Men: A change in thinking may improve your sex life. Get the details on seven common mistakes guys make with women, and learn how to avoid them.

Mistake 1: Sex Starts in the Bedroom

Men may turn on like a light, but for women, arousal doesn’t happen so fast, says sex therapist Ian Kerner, PhD.




Pave the way during the day by hugging, kissing, and holding hands. Have some fun together, and show you appreciate her.




Feeling safe and secure in the relationship is key for a woman to really let loose during sex, Kerner says. A long hug can go further than you’d think. “Hugging for 30 seconds stimulates oxytocin, the hormone in women that creates [a] sense of connection and trust.”

Mistake 2: Assume You Know What She Wants

“Just as many women are faking orgasm today as 20 or 30 years ago,” Kerner says. So, if she’s not enjoying herself, you might not know it.




Don't be afraid to ask questions like “How does this feel?” or “Do you want something different?”









In other words, ask for directions.

Mistake 3: Stick to Your Plan

Don't think that "if it worked the first three times, it will work the next three times," says sex therapist Sari Cooper, LCSW.

What turns her on may depend on her mood, and where she is in her monthly cycle. “Perhaps her nipples are more sensitive or her genitals are less tingly,” Cooper adds.

Pay attention to your partner, says psychologist Lonnie Barbach, PhD. “Try different things and see how she responds.”




When you find something that works, linger on it. Women often complain that men move on to the next thing just as they really start to enjoy an activity.

Mistake 4: Keep It Strictly Physical

Expand your idea of foreplay. Some men "focus on physical stimulation and often ignore mental stimulation,” Kerner says.




While men get stirred up by what they see, “women fantasize a lot during sex as part of [the] process of arousal.” Join in -- share a fantasy or a sexy memory.






Mistake 5: Expect Intercourse to Give Her an Orgasm

For 80% of women, intercourse alone won’t do the trick. Why not? Most sex positions don’t directly stimulate the clitoris.

There are other ways to pleasure her. “Women orgasm much more consistently from oral sex than from intercourse,” Kerner says. Also, try sex with the woman on top, or a vibrator made for couples to use during sex. “Men should feel comfortable, not threatened, with sex toys,” he says.

To help her hit the high note when you do have sex, take time to get her going before you make your entrance. “The closer women are when they start intercourse, the more likely they are to have an orgasm,” Barbach says.




Mistake 6: Skip the Seduction

Women like to be seduced. "Seduction is as important as, or sometimes more important than, technique,” Cooper says.


It helps to know what kind of turn-on your partner likes, whether it’s oral, visual, or mental, she says. “Does your partner like it when you talk dirty over the phone or text? Trace your finger slowly up her chest? Flirt with her at a bar?”




Also, if you like what you see, say so. "Let a woman know how desirable she is,” Barbach says.

Mistake 7: Focus on Ringing the Bell

Most women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, but it's more complex than you may think.
Some men "don’t understand the anatomy of the clitoris,” Cooper says. It’s more than the small "button" you can see. Its nerve endings spread throughout the vulva and inside the vagina. All are potential pleasure points worth exploring.




“You can go back and forth,” Cooper says. Paying too much attention to the glans, at the top of the vulva, can take away from pleasure for some women. It's so sensitive, that too much stimulation can hurt.







Tuesday, 30 October 2018

13 Things Not to Say to Someone Who's Always in a Relationship

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1. "How do you spice it up?" As if it weren't already spicy. When you're in a really, really good relationship, you don't have to search for spices — they're just there in infinite supply. 
2. "You're young! You need to get out there and experience what the world has to offer you." And by that do you mean "have one-night stands with guys who don't know what they're doing and first dates that are awkward as hell"? I don't judge if that's what you enjoy. But if I found My Person, there's no point in going on dates that I don't really want to be on. 




3. "How's the ball and chain doing?" Or "How's the boyyyyyyfriend?" you might say while rolling your eyes as if to suggest it's such a chore to be in a happy, steady relationship. He's great and we love the shit out of each other, actually! Thanks for asking.
4. "People in long-term relationships are just people who are way too comfortable with each other." Allow me to clarify: A comfortable relationship is not an unhappy relationship. I'm comfortable with my significant other in the sense that I will walk around with no makeup and send him ugly selfies. Comfort does not make us dislike each other.
5. "It's so weird that you have no one else to compare him or your relationship to. How can you even tell if he's The One?"  This is hard to understand for someone who hasn't found their person yet, but if you have found your person, you know. To put it in simple terms — your favorite personal belonging probably isn't your favorite because some external force made you realize that it is. Your favorite green bracelet is your favorite green bracelet because you love it and it means something to you. It's that simple. So, yeah, I just know. 
6. "I don't believe in monogamy." And I do. Which is why I am me, and you are you. Oh, look, a poem! 
7. "Come on, just be my wingwoman!" Uh, no, that's boring for me. I don't bring you out on my dates because you'd rather poke your eyes out than be a third wheel, which is totally fine. But that's what being your wingwoman feels like to me. 



8. "Doesn't it get boring?" If it were boring I wouldn't be doing it. I'm in a committed relationship with a person, I am not in a committed relationship with boredom. Thanks though. 
9. "You can't be together long-term if you don't hook up with other people first." This is a real thing that someone told me once, and it blew my mind. Just because the first guy I got with ended up being the only guy I wanted to get with doesn't mean that it's not real. (See no. 5 above, ahem.)
10. *Not ever inviting me to girls' things where it's mostly single girls because they assume you don't want to come.*  Just because I am in a relationship doesn't mean I am against hanging out with single people. When I'm going out with my best girlfriends, the last thing I am thinking about is anyone's relationship status. So if you're going out for a fun night of drinks and food, whether or not you're looking for hookups, count me in! 
11. "How do you know? You've only been with one guy." <---The ~sAsSy~ remark you get whenever you try to give relationship advice. Yes, I have only been with one guy. Because he's an awesome hell of a guy who treats me exactly as I should be treated. Because I know how good it feels to be in a happy relationship, I know that the way that douchebag is treating you is wrong. And you deserve to be happy! 



12. "You must think about other guys all the time." I mean yeah, I have eyes. I think that Eric Decker is hot as hell because he is. I acknowledge that a man is attractive as he walks past me on the street because I am a living human. Just because I am monogamous doesn't mean I want to rip off my clothes at the sight of a hot man who isn't my man. 
13. "Do you really think he's ever only been with you?" I really do because we're in a trusting relationship. That's what monogamous relationships are. And that's what I like having in my life. 



















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Friday, 31 August 2018

Lady fingers her private parts after WizKid shook her hands at his concert

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So an overly joyous lady took an audience aback following the action she took after her favourite singer, Wizkid touched her hands some days ago.

According to a Lady, Annie who was gisting her friend, Ola about what went down at Wizkid concert, she claims, the singer passed by a group of people – presumably while performing – and in salutation of his adorned fans, made physical contact with them.





According to a Lady, Annie who was gisting her friend, Ola about what went down at Wizkid concert, she claims, the singer passed by a group of people – presumably while performing – and in salutation of his adorned fans, made physical contact with them.
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This caused one of the ladies who was touched to extend the feel down to her genitals and the teller of the story was so shook that even sleep couldn’t take the thought off her mind.











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Wednesday, 29 August 2018

The Pinwheel

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INSTRUCTIONS

You and your partner lie on your sides facing the same direction. First, you lower your crotch onto his, wrapping your legs around either side of his torso. Your arms should be stretched out behind you supporting your weight. He then encircles your waist with his legs and grips your upper thighs and thrusts gently.


DIFFICULTY LEVEL

Honestly, this one is pretty cosy and not too aerobic. Once you get into position it should be smooth sailing.






You'll LOVE IT BECAUSE

Like most side-by-side sex positions, this one promises a kind of equality but with a head-on twist. "This position is well-suited for shallow penetrations," says Joan Elizabeth Lloyd, author of Now and Forever: Let's Make Love (Warner Books, 1997). Why would you want to dabble instead of really doing it deep? Because this way your partner can tease the turbo-charged nerve endings in the first third of your vagina, duh.





*HINT*

If you can coordinate it balance-wise, wrap your arms around him and pull him toward you, to better control the depth of penetration.
















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Teacher Arrested For Having Sex Multiple Times With Boy After Class (Photo)

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An Oklahoma high school teacher has been arrested on allegations of having sex with a student, starting when he was 17 years old.


Haylie Smart, 29, was arrested on a charge of second-degree rape, the Rogers County Sheriff’s Office said.

She’s accused of having sex with the Oologah-Talala High School student both after class and at his home.

Smart’s employment with the School District I-004 ended on May 29, Max Tanner, superintendent of Oologah-Talala Public Schools, said in a statement to Tulsa World.




Smart was not discreet about her sexual relationship with the student, according to law enforcement documents.





The probable cause affidavit states she began rubbing the student’s back and placing her head on his shoulder in October 2017.

At some point, Smart and the student were said to have hugged in front of other students multiple times.





The two allegedly began having sex in November, according to the documents. The student turned 18 in December. Regardless of the student’s age, it’s illegal for a teacher to have sexual encounters with a student, under Oklahoma state law.

It’s believed Smart had sex with the student both after class, and also at his home, during a two-week statewide teacher walkout.

Smart sent a message to a friend in May about her alleged relationship with the student and noting the school’s investigation.

She said she believed the school would find sufficient evidence to fire her, according to authorities. Smart was suspended from the school district in May, and she resigned from her position several days later, Oklahoma News 4 reported.





The warrant for Smart’s arrest was issued on August 17, the Sheriff’s Office said. She turned herself in, to authorities on Friday and was released after posting a $25,000 bond.
















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Tuesday, 28 August 2018

I Was Emotionally Unfaithful and It Poisoned My Relationship

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My boyfriend and I moved to Lagos with only each other. We were 3,000 miles from home and knew no one else in this big city. I don't think either of us anticipated just how homesick we'd be, but at 19 years old, we were sure that all we needed was each other to take on this brand new world, so starkly different from our Southeastern roots. Our naiveté didn't last long.


I hardly remember that fall, our first couple months learning and forgetting how to run after a molue, I dutifully buried in schoolwork and him working 50+ hours a week just for an excuse to leave the house. But before I knew it, winter was upon us and we trudged through slush and snow, feeling perpetually frozen in a way that even my time in Ph and Owerri couldn't have prepared me for. Poor Igbo boy, he'd never experienced anything like it.

By January, less than six months into our Eko new life, hairline fractures of fear and homesickness had evolved into cracks of exhaustion, depression, and irreparable loneliness. Relying solely on one another for comfort, friendship, love, and support had made him needy and me resentful.





Frustrated by the imposed restrictedness on any social life and simultaneous monotony of our relationship, I sought out the attention and affections of other men, former flings, and street strangers, craving some kind of social interaction other than the repetitive banter and routine we had established at home. But my attempts to divert my domestic displeasures only made them that much more pronounced — we spent our evenings sitting opposite one other, Netflix on the TV but our fingers and eyes glued to our phones in a silent, self-induced boozy haze.

It was unfair of me to assume that he wasn't perceptive enough to notice. I kept my phone close at hand at all times, especially after his semi-successful attempts to learn my passcode and read my texts. We both felt the gap between us — mentally, emotionally, physically — widening, but were too scared of the potential loneliness to bring it up.

Our relationship ebbed further into distrust and resentment. Sensing something was going on, he would try going into my texts, Facebook messages, and email looking for something concrete to confirm his suspicions, and I would respond by strengthening my passwords and carrying my laptop with me when I left the house. But there weren't any sexts or dirty photos or evidence of infidelity that he was searching for in any of the messages with these other men. It wasn't the physical temptations leading me astray, but the search for emotional understanding from anyone to feel less alone.




One guy, in particular, Sam, an old high school fling who was back in Owerri, escalated our increasing trust issues to an unsalvageable level. Already (and quite reasonably) threatened by our history, my boyfriend was far from OK with my ongoing communication with Sam, especially as I became more secretive about my phone. So I would make excuses to leave the house while I called Sam for reassurance and comfort. I complained about my boyfriend and he responded with sympathetic encouragement for me to end things, that things could be so much better without him, that Sam and I had a "real" future together, until I was so worked up that I stormed home, icing out my boyfriend for no particular reason.

After eight months in Lagos, our relationship was only a hollow façade clinging onto some infinitesimal semblance of what we'd once been. Our daily communication had been boiled down to a scripted dialogue of "how was work/school" and a few select, abbreviated responses. We hadn't had sex in over three months; my failing to reciprocate his advances led him to finally give up any attempts. And the two of us, both singularly and as a couple, were utterly miserable. Rather than a reprieve from work and city life, the home was tense and uninviting, and I spent many nights taking too-long walks.




That festive period, we both went back to Owerri, attempting to defrost our bones from the Lagos struggles that seemed to last those entire eight months. It was there that I ended things. I was petrified of coming back to Lagos, this time truly on my own, but I was even more scared of having another year like that one. Loneliness is inevitable in a city as populated as Lagos, but there's nothing quite as isolating as being lonely with someone.

I am guilty, both of failing to communicate how I was feeling to my boyfriend and of using those other men as an emotional distraction. And it all led me right back to where I had spent all that effort avoiding — alone in Lagos.








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My Husband and I Text More Than We Talk – and That's OK

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My husband and I text each other like teenagers. We have far more texting conversations than we do face-to-face and it's a rare day where we go more than a couple of hours without texting each other. The fact is surprising to friends and family, who have been witness to the constant back-and-forth of our text communications. Regardless of the content  —and it might be the menu for dinner, a reminder about our children's school schedule, or a simple "I love you!" — the texts fly fast and furious from sunrise to bedtime. The fact is, texting has become our primary form of communication in the past few years and it doesn't bother me a bit. I love it.






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The beauty of texting is that it simplifies our lives while intensifying our connection. Sending texts is easier than making a phone call — when one of us is likely busy with work or childcare — and written communication is a good way of keeping track of shared information from dates of parent-teacher conferences to grocery lists. We go back and forth constantly, every day, sharing the minutiae of our lives with each other whether it's about an NPR interview he heard on the way to work or a photograph of our sons on their first morning of school. Texting has become a way to improve our communication with each other and stay closer amid the chaos of our daily lives.





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Texting also gives us peace of mind. I carry my phone with me on my nightly walks with our dog and text him once or twice during the walk, sending a photo of a particularly gorgeous moon or asking him to feed the cat. He texts me when he arrives safely at work in the morning and again when he leaves for home in the afternoon, giving me an estimated time of arrival. I text him when I drop off the kids at school in the morning and let him know my plan for after school. And so it goes. It's not only about safety, it's about connection — feeling as if our family is together, even when we're in our various pursuits.

And yes, we even text each other from different rooms of the house. If that sounds like a warning sign of a bad relationship or an addiction to tech, let me explain: We have two young children who fill our days (and nights) with chatter and stories of their own. In the evenings, we collaborate to get them to bed. We text each other while we're getting them bathed and in bed, when they are capable of doing everything themselves but still require some supervision. Even though we're in the same house, the many tasks that are involved in family life mean that we aren't usually face-to-face and alone until after 9 p.m. at night. By that time, there are few details of each other's day that we don't already know. I feel as if I had been sitting in his middle school classroom while he taught math, I know what traffic was like both morning and afternoon, even what he had for lunch. He knows about my writing deadlines, has received links to my newest published piece, and knows how much coffee I had in one of my writing sessions at the coffee shop. We are together even when we are apart.





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Some couples may feel like this is all too much connecting, too much sharing. But this isn't a new thing for us — we have always stayed this connected and involved in each other's lives, using whatever technology we've had available. Phone calls, voice mails, emails, video chat, we have made the most of all of them. And before that, we wrote letters and cards. In fact, we still do. It's not about the technology — though it has it has perks — it's about togetherness in whatever form we can get it. Our lives have been this entwined since we got married and the only thing that has changed is the mode of communication. There is nothing like spending a couple of hours lying on the couch, holding hands and talking about everything that's in our heads. But when time and circumstance doesn't allow for that, we have our text messages to keep us together.

And now you'll have to excuse me. I'm going to text my husband to see what he wants for dinner and tell him I love him.




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‘I Have Dated Men From Every Race Apart From Asia’ – Billionaire Daughter, DJ Cuppy (Video)

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Popular Nigerian disc jockey, DJ Cuppy, has opened up about her love life, explaining that she has dated every race of men apart from Asians.


DJ Cuppy, who happens to be one of the most talked about female disc jockeys in Nigeria, has made a startling revelation about her love life.

The young woman who was born with a silver spoon into the home of billionaire businessman, Femi Otedola, revealed during a recent interview that she has dated every race of men apart from Asian.





DJ Cuppy made the statement during a chat with OAPs at Hot FM in Lagos.

A video of the interview was posted on Instagram by the radio station.

Watch the video below:-










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